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H8UCLA
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| Posted on 12/30/2005 00:46 |
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Are you or do you think others are more picky when it comes to meeting someone online? Do you pass on a girl who looks decent who you would otherwise have given it a try if you met through a friend or other "traditional" means? How about a description the person wrote which intriqued you but because of one missing quality or two you ended up passing on the opportunity? Bottom line, because you may feel that their are so more fishes in the online sea, do you find yourself being more picky about who you would try to contact? I find that I have a much easier time getting a girls number going to clubs or parties and such then I do getting girls online to chat with me. I must admit I find myself being a bit more picky when it comes to online dating so perhaps I answered my own question. But I'm thinking maybe it's only me so I ask everyone out there if they find themselves being more picky as well. |
lemongrass
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I think that on-line daters are slightly more picky/selective. Not because there are so many more fishes in the on-line sea, but because the internet offers that buffer zone for people to be "slightly more picky." I think, even borderline rude sometimes in their assessment of the individuals.
Common human courtesy calls for people to be nice and polite to one another when meeting, especially when you are meeting face to face. However, on the internet the human interfacing process has been removed. People then feel that they don't have to be as polite to the other individual because they think they aren't ever going to meet these people, ever, in "real life."
People try to separate "on-line dating" from "real life dating." I would argue that whichever method people choose, they should approach the two in relatively the same fashion. Never judge a book by it's cover. It's the little things that make all the difference in the world.
I find that the most fascinating people I've met on the internet--were those that I almost passed up on. |
lemongrass
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It would be courteous to reply, even if it's a note to decline. Honesty works, honesty with discretion never hurts anyone. |
MyLinh
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To answer your question, I believe so. I find that some people in here are very picky when they want to meet someone online. I have noticed that most of them want those characteristics that you mentioned above: an individual that is beautiful, tall, handsome and makes certain amount of income. There are high expectations and those people have their own reasons why they want those expectations in themselves and others. Like people say "Beauty is in the eye of beholder", but somehow I sense that some people do not give others an opportunity to get to know one another. And beauty doesn't last so why not search for one that has a great personality, someone that is compatiable w/ you. I believe that personality brings out the beauty in an individual. If an individual is good looking and his personality is arrogrant, self-centered, conceited..etc., there is just no beauty in him anymore. I believe that talking to someone online, on the telephone, and even talking to that individual face to face are all different in many ways. So why just judge a person just by the picture...pictures don't do justice. Why not just give the other person a chance and get to know him/her. Who knows, he/she might be the one for you. On the question of courtesy, it would be polite to reply to someone just to let the other individual know that you are not interested in him/her. "Honesty is the best policy." |
touuu
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I dont know about people, I only know about myself.. No, I am not more picky then I am, simply because it is online...... But then again, IM not picky at all... So go figure, LOL... |
dstnrunner
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YES !!!
People should be picky, especially when it comes to on-line dating. It allows you to filter out all the elements that you don't want and are sometimes not apparent when you meet people in the real world. After all, we don't go around asking people their age, weight, education, income, marital status, etc. - all stated explicitly in your profile!
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taiwangold
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Picky has a multitude of meanings. This site has more potential than many pay sites. Why? It has given people freedom to be able to search for and communicate much more easily with others than many commerical sites. Also it is well organized and well designed. I have found that there are a lot of gems, diamonds, rubies and Yes even Jade present at this site. Unfortunately I do not desire to live in the USA for many reasons. Thus I do not intend to contact many of these valuable gems simply due to a potential misunderstanding. Who needs Adultfriend finder for some intimate encounter when you can meet high quality people here???? It is often stated that there are a ton of jerks, liars, weirdos and potentially harmful men lurking behind every shadow. The same could easily be said for women as well. Use common sense when contacting or dating someone. I would suggest that one should invest some energy into discussing various topics to begin to develop an understanding of Who you are talking to via the typical 5 W's
Ask them to join OK Cupid and invite them to take a small or large number of those fascinating personality type tests. The tests in my estimation mean nothing and the results are ONLY for reflective thinking. But they make excellent fodder for thought in noticing whether the other partner is willing to invest some energy into the current relationship. Should you "really" only be interested in a romantic fling or a hot night of intimacy then waltz on over to another pay site and take yer chances with Lady Luck. |
minhthy
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| Posted on 6/15/2006 18:40 |
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Online dating eliminate the human contact thus allowing people pass through or pass up conversation/chat invitation more quickly. It is always easier to say no or to decline over the net or on the phone than it is in person. Take telemarketers for instant, you get a call from one of them at dinner time and you simply hang up or just not answer. Now, if you were at the mall (shopping of course and window shopping my the plastic is declined) and a salesperson approach you...you might say no but I'm sure you are definitely more cordial about it.
Also, when you receive a "hi there" or "hello" TYPED on a screen, it doesn't give it any personality. While if those words were spoken to you, I'm sure it will mean differently. You can heard their voice and sometimes that's all it takes to melt a person's heart.
...well I'm just bored and ranting on.. :) night night y'all |
Queenie
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Not picky in particular. But I heard of not being courteous is one of the major issues. First impression should always be your best impression regardless if you like or dislike a person. Dating and getting to know shouldn't be a horrible experience...but unfortunately, I heard of horrible experiences from people online here. Kindest regards. |
asianwalker
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| Posted on 7/13/2009 13:08 |
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People more picky because online dating is more risky :) |
scorpiogal
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| Posted on 11/3/2009 01:15 |
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yes one should be picky who he wants to chat/date online.and also honesty is the best policy, one should maintain his/her standards but lower the expectations. cam and pictures may hide some skin flaws or blemishes or the real age of a person but up close and personal u will see the real person and if u lie game is over.. so its vital to be honest .. |
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